DO You have trouble with people saying 'OMG, YOU DONT LOOK LIKE YOU HAVE CANCER"
I have been diagnosed with Leukemia since 2012. It was REALLY hard at the beginning, mental, physically, emotionally. I am still on medication for it. When i tell people , its not like i come out and say it, but getting to know people they struggle that I just dont look sick. Well thats a compliment , right? But, they have no clue how screwed up I am on the inside. Sometimes it bothers me and sometimes i shrug it off.
Yes, I think many people can relate to the "You don't look sick". I think when people don't do their due diligence to truly understand the disease and what the patient goes through, well they continue to be in the closet. Some of us do a good job of trying to look and feel good, but it is some work, more so for our well being not for others. I think whoever gets the trials gets that those comments say very little. I would continue to smile and shrug it off. Wishing you the very best! that's me people think I am not sick with cancer Sometimes people are uncomfortable being uncomfortable, even when the situation doesn't affect them directly. In time they'll get that a look doesn't necessarily speak to how a person is feeling. In the meantime live your best!
Yolanda (Team Member)
Thank you! I appreciate your response.
I can SO relate to this, and I'm sure many others here will agree. It has taken me a long time to accept that some people just aren't going to understand. I hope you can find peace with that for yourself. There are always others here you can vent to who will get it, so please reach out any time. We're in this together!
Angie (Team Member)I hear that so often its just unbelievable. I try to just say thank you and go on. I really want to say i hurt trying to do even little things. I remind my husband 10 minutes seems to be my limit without sitting down. For him I'm so much better than i was a year ago he seems to believe everything is good. He's the only one I really expect to understand. Just a little venting..
It is not uncommon for those closest to us to not understand either, even if they see how bad it can be up close. My spouse straight up left after my first chemo appointment, apparently cancer wasn't in her life plan, so I get how they can disappoint you. You can always come here to vent, chat, or just be with others who get it. I try to deal with people like that by telling myself that they want me to be good so they think it. Is it true? Who knows, but it's a nice thought! Keep on keepin' on, DPM we all need to do some venting at times. Bring it on! We get it! Hugs to you!
