Unfortunately I have found via 30 years of experience that the only people who really understand are others who have cancer. It's a shame but its true. Many people are sympathetic and kind (some aren't!) but even the closest loved one can only take so much before they kind of tune out in the nicest way possible. I don't blame them, they're only human, but it is unfortunately the truth. That's why this site is so important and necessary! Keep on keepin' on, DPM