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How do you respond to unwanted advice?

As a person living with cancer, you may receive unsolicited and even unwanted advice from friends, family, and strangers. It might sound like no big deal to some, but it can be overwhelming, and just plain annoying to others.

How do you handle receiving unwanted advice?

  1. I generally respond to advice on medication/supplements/diet/treatments/etc. with the following: "I will mention your suggestions to my doctor, who is monitoring my treatment and if he thinks it is a viable option, we may try it." Leaves the person feeling like they contributed something without me saying a flat out no. Most people are well meaning with their advice and are not trying to be rude. Then I avoid them like the plague for a while!!! LOL

    1. This is a good way to both handle it AND shut down any further questions or comments. Only the most dogged of people will even bother following up with you at a later date to see if you really asked your doctor. Then you can make another excuse if you need. Ha ha. Good advice. Keep on keepin' on, DPM

  2. I would love to respond with, "I didn't know you have experience caring for someone with Multiple Myeloma blood cancer." But I won't say that. 🙄

    1. it feels like it would get your point across that way. Sometimes it's difficult to resist the urge to say those things, right? But it sounds like you're good at controlling what you say.

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