But You Don't Look Sick

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   Amanda Brunson Moderator

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      Leya Elijah Moderator

      <p><inline-mention username="Amanda Brunson" user-id="4145474"/> thank you sis!! This hair color has become my motivation, my drive, my fight, my brand, my joy!! </p>

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   Dennis Golden Moderator

   <p><inline-mention username="Leya Elijah" user-id="3654201"/> Hear you on the &quot;You Don&#39;t Look Sick&quot; comments . It use to bother me a lot. Now I tend to think that folks in their own way are trying to support us with encouragement. I see it as a kind of casual ... Hi Dennis you are looking healthy, I am glad to see that and ... I am silently presuming and hoping you are OK. <br/><br/><br/>We tend to base our reactions to others actions and their comments through a filter of years of personal experiences and interactions. Cancer and its many treatments can be new both for us and also to those we know. If that were not enough things can change. Often I as &quot;the patient&quot; may actually look better on some days vs others. By the way you look great. Dennis(BloodCancer.net Team)</p>

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      Leya Elijah Moderator

      <p><inline-mention username="Dennis Golden" user-id="3641422"/> Thank you so much! Ironically the day I made the video I wasn&#39;t feeling great! But I have become a master of hiding how I am truly feeling. Especially being a person who is always speaking publicly. That&#39;s why people don&#39;t think we look sick and feel they are encouraging us... those of us who live publicly are just good at hiding it 😂.</p>

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   Yolanda Brunson-Sarrabo Moderator

   <p>I agree it takes a lot of work to make ourselves look our best while putting up that smile for others when we&#39;re not in the mood. The journey is indeed surviving the day-to-day...when we feel like it. Great post lady : )</p>

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      Leya Elijah Moderator

      <p><inline-mention username="Yolanda Brunson-Sarrabo" user-id="3647991"/> I appreciate it! It&#39;s not that we are complaining. I just want people to understand. Sometimes it&#39;s not even day to day but moment to moment. We can start the day fine and within hours are not good at all. However, we still have obligations we have to keep so we get up, dress up, take meds, push through, put on our best smile and get it done! Sometimes, barely, but we do! </p>

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      Dennis Golden Moderator

      <p><inline-mention username="Leya Elijah" user-id="3654201"/> So true - You just push through the mess and at the same time ... recognize your limits and ... love yourself enough to know when to say NO ... Dennis (Blood-Cancer.com TEAM)</p>

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   Susan Gonsalves Moderator

   <p>Sometimes it is hard to pretend all is well when it is not. At the start of my journey, I did get that cynical, &quot;you don&#39;t look sick,&quot; vibe and comments a little bit which I think puts some people on the defense: &quot;yes, I&#39;m sick.&quot; On the other hand, now that I&#39;m not looking so well, people mercifully do not tell me how sick I look but I can see it in their expressions. We never win! Just try your best to get through each day and do the best you can. Susan (Blood-Cancer.com Team Member) </p>

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   TJ Miller

   <p>Leah you handle it very well - and thanks for expressing yourself so clearly - no filters. I think it is best to be honest with people and educate thema little bit on what it takes to be you. Awesome!<br/><br/></p>

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   Daniel Malito Moderator

   <p><inline-mention username="Leya Elijah" user-id="3654201"/> If I had a nickel for the number of times I have heard &quot;you don&#39;t look sick&quot; during cancer and the thirty some odd years before that with my RA and chronic illness I could be a millionaire by now. It always amazes me how people think that&#39;s some sort of compliment! Keep on keepin&#39; on, DPM</p>

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   Ann Harper Moderator

   <p><inline-mention username="Leya Elijah" user-id="3654201"/> You look absolutely beautiful and I love your hair. I don&#39;t know what looking sick looks like either, but I have heard that as well as, &#39;Are you sure you have cancer?&#39;! I look as it as, we are all surviving something. For me, that&#39;s cancer. When other people tell me about their issues, I don&#39;t comment on how they look getting through it and wish others might think the same thing. When people say that to me it makes me feel as though they think all I&#39;ve gone through must be pretty insignificant. I don&#39;t think they mean it that way, but that doesn&#39;t make it any better to hear. Thanks for sharing. Ann (Blood-Cancer.com Team member)</p>

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