Seeking Forgiveness From Those I Hurt Through My Diagnosis

By Racheli Alkobey

1 min read

In my experience, losing friends upon adversity is a common occurrence. Whenever I speak with people who were also diagnosed with cancer, we always bond over the fact that some of the people we were friends with at the time are no longer in our lives. The correlation to this incident is usually that people didn't know how to treat us or weren't there for us in the ways that we expected them to be.

Apologizing to the people that I hurt

But what about OUR behavior? Just because we are the ones faced with this traumatic experience doesn't give us a full ride to not treat those we love with kindness and respect. We all make mistakes and lose ourselves sometimes... and we all deserve apologies. Consider this mine to those I hurt during my diagnosis.

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Yolanda Brunson-Sarrabo Moderator & Contributor
Hi Racheli, It's really crazy that cancer takes so many things from everyone. It's not a simple walk; However we definitely see a lot of disconnect along the way. As you stated we can only move on by acknowledging, , forgive, and move on. As there's so much more to do then hold strong grudges. We have stuff to do like keep at this thing called living. Best!
1. Racheli Alkobey Moderator & Contributor
 Yes, girl!!! We just have to keep living and thriving through it. All my love! Xo
2. Yolanda Brunson-Sarrabo Moderator & Contributor
 Indeed... right back at ya! 😀
Susan Gonsalves Moderator & Contributor
What an excellent video and insight you have. I've lost a lot of people as I battle CML whether they can't handle it or for other reasons but I can acknowledge that in the beginning, I may have distanced myself or took comments and reactions the wrong way. You have got me thinking deeply now. Thanks for sharing.
1. Racheli Alkobey Moderator & Contributor
 Thank you so much for your insight and acknowledgement... It's so important for us to reflect and understand our reactions.
Matt Goldman Contributor
Racheli, this is great advice. No one gives us a guidebook on how to fight cancer and the range of emotions is huge. For me, adding steroids to the mix and I'd definitely lash out at people. Doesn't even seem like I was myself. I've learned a lot about apologizing to others and to myself. Thanks for your wisdom.
1. Racheli Alkobey Moderator & Contributor
 Right?! I consider this site as the guidebook for other to follow along and maybe learn from some mistakes or ways that we've been able to approach this confusing time in our lives. And I totally agree, the steroids absolutely did not help!
Ann Harper Moderator & Contributor
<inline-mention user-id="3651245" username="Racheli Alkobey"/> This is a very different outlook and one that is important to think about. Thank you for sharing this, especially just before the new year. It may make a big difference to some of us. Wishing you health and happines in the new year!
1. Racheli Alkobey Moderator & Contributor
 Thank you so much for acknowledging.. I'm so happy that you agree how important it is! Happy new year to you!

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