What Not to Say to a Cancer Patient

When someone is diagnosed with cancer, they are already feeling insecure and overwhelmed with heightened emotions. It’s important to consciously try to understand your intent and think about the words you say to someone who is either about to begin treatment for their cancer or is learning to navigate their space of life after cancer. Here are some interesting choices of words that I have heard and how you can better your communication with cancer patients in your life!

Have you been surprised by the things people have said to you since your blood cancer diagnosis? What have been some of the kindest and most helpful things people have said?

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  • Ann Harper moderator
    4 weeks ago

    My daughter was very upset by some of the things people said to her. I think most of the time people mean well but really don’t know what to say. I think as long as it comes from the heart it will be ok.

  • Mike Padjen
    3 months ago

    Racheli, right on point. At first, I had a problem with people telling me “you look so good, I would have never known you had cancer”, but got past that. The standard line I got because I have shaved my head for over a decade was “well at least you don’t have to worry about losing your hair (ha, ha)”. The words I liked to hear were, “I love you, what can I do to help” Thanksfor your post!

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