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This summer, my husband had night sweats, lost weight, and had a huge lump (he finally told me) in the groin area. The lump was removed and the Dr. told him that he had non-Hodgkin lymphoma, the slow growing kind. About 17 years ago or so, he had a lump under his arm and had that removed, too.

Getting a second opinion?

After the recent biopsy came back, he said, “I was sure it was cancer but the biopsy showed it was cat scratch fever”. Now I think they read the biopsy wrong and he’s had cancer all this time. His Dr. said we should wait and see what happens. I want my husband to have a second opinion, but he is reluctant.

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  • Ann Harper moderator
    9 months ago

    I believe a second opinion is so important. Even if they say the same thing, it will give you piece of mind. I hope you can convince your husband to go. Good luck.

  • bluchs
    10 months ago

    Please do not wait
    Get that second opinion, Please.
    Better safe, than sorry and to late?
    If I would have gone for help, when I first felt sick, perhaps I would be in remission now, I waited until it was to late.
    My oncologist wanted to remove My spleen, but I was scared, and My family insisted, that I get a second opinion, so I did, in fact I also got a 3rd opinion.
    Both said NO, “don’t have it removed”, that, I would most likely die from an infection, long before My spleen burst.
    So I did not have it removed.
    That was almost 2 years ago, and My enlarged spleen, reduced to almost normal size.
    Please, talk him into a second opinion.
    It can not hurt, He may be scared of what they may find?
    May God Bless You both, and good luck?

  • Yolanda Brunson-Sarrabo moderator
    10 months ago

    @periwinkle – “Oh my”! I’m so sorry to hear of your husband ordeal. It’s always heart-wrenching when the doctors don’t get things right sometimes, and situations like this get missed. I have to agree with you here… a second opinion worked well for me, and it made sense at that moment rather what was originally suggested. Perhaps consider being proactive in seeing what options you have, and go from there. I wish you and your husband the very best. Please let us know how things turn out. Best!

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