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For Me, Grief Looks Like…

Grief is complex and looks different for everyone. Check out the definitions below. Then, scroll down and comment or copy and paste to share which type of grief you have experienced.

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Defining grief

  • ❤️ Cumulative grief: These are the emotions we feel in response to more than 1 loss at once. Cumulative grief can look like losing multiple loved ones at once. It can also mean experiencing a loss while grieving another loss or losses.1
  • 💙 Ambiguous loss: This is how we feel in response to a loss that lacks clarity and is not marked by a definite moment. For example, you might feel ambiguous loss when a person is still alive but has gone missing or is no longer acting like themselves.2
  • 💚 Disenfranchised grief: Also called hidden grief, this is the type of grief felt when a person’s response to a death is not accepted or acknowledged by society or their community. Disenfranchised grief can look like losing a pet and being told that they weren't a "real" member of your family. A nurse or other healthcare professional who loses a patient may feel this type of grief because the loss is supposed to be "just a part of the job." Recovery may be impaired for those whose grief is hidden.3
  • 💛 Traumatic grief: Traumatic grief is severe separation distress after the unexpected or violent loss of a loved one. This type of grief is likely accompanied by numbness and shock.3
  • 🧡 Delayed grief: In delayed grief, the feeling of grief is absent until a significant time later.4

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