Learning About Cancer Related Post-Traumatic Stress
Today, I actually went to the gym and rode a stationary bike for 30 minutes. Other than gingerly walking my dog around the block, this is the first exercise of any kind I’ve done in about 4 weeks. I’ve tried to maintain my fitness throughout my 8-year journey with myeloma. But, for the past month, a terribly painful lower back and associated sciatica left me down and out. The downtime really hasn’t been good for my mental state. Lots of worry. I worry that my back is cancer-related. I worry that I’ve never going to truly feel good again. I worry about my medical bills. And on and on.
A mini breakdown over donuts
Fridays are treat day for my wife and me. On Friday mornings, I get us coffee and something sweet. Last week, I went on the hunt for krullers. Surprisingly, they are hard to find. It took a while, but I eventually found what I was looking for. As I was driving back home, I nearly broke down in tears over the donut experience. I was overwrought with anguish. I came home and told my wife I might have had a mini breakdown. In talking, I realized that 8 years of non-stop treatment, with no end in sight, plus having my body falling apart, as well as the usual life responsibilities, was mentally wearing me down. Before cancer and during cancer, I’ve always done a good job of looking positively forward. But this time, I couldn’t muster up the strength to do it.
Learning about PTSD
Fortunately, two days ago, I came across an article from Jason Kander, a rising politician, who stepped away from the public eye to deal with Post Traumatic Stress Disease resulting from a tour of duty in Afghanistan a decade ago. The article by Jason and his wife is titled Five Lies We Tell Ourselves About Trauma. The five lies are: Lie #1: “I can’t have post-traumatic stress, because what I went through wasn’t as bad as . . . “Lie #2: “I’ll feel better once I…”Lie #3: “I’m not obsessed with control, I’m the only rational person here.”Lie #4: “My physical problems have nothing to do with my mental health.”Lie #5: “This is just who I am.”
Cancer-related post-traumatic stress
When I read these, they all rang a bit true to me. It also reflected what I’ve heard other patients say. So, I started googling PTSD and cancer and came across a whole lot of articles about cancer-related PTSD. It’s a real thing. It impacts folks in remission and folks, like me, who are living with a chronic cancer. I’m discovering that it can be very powerful. I’ve seen a therapist on and off since being diagnosed, but haven’t really stuck with it, figuring I’m tough enough to work through things like depression and anxiety on my own. But I think I need to talk to someone again. I’d suggest we all ensure that we’re taking care of our mental health in addition to our physical health. I’m not saying everyone needs help in working through their emotions, but I do know I better get on it, so I don’t have another near breakdown over donuts.
Do you worry about relapse?