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Doing Something For Me

I spend a lot of my time looking after others and making sure they are ok. It’s partly my job and partly how I am, and how I have always been. I’ve always had an older head on my shoulders and looking after others has always been very natural to me. This has a lot to do with my job and the fact that I chose to train as a Naturopath and help others with their health.

Taking time for me isn’t so easy

It can come at a bit of a cost though. I’m not very good at looking after me in many ways. Yes, I eat well and cook nutritious food for myself. I’m pretty good at getting my daily steps in and walking around. I also take time to enjoy what I’m doing. But. I never really treat myself. I live on a very tight budget because of living on my own, so doing fun things or buying myself things often is left off the list.

Today, I spent time (and unexpected money which I’m now slightly panicking about!) on me. My sister found a UK charity that gives people with cancer time for them. Something nice for them. Something to make them feel good. An unexpected treat. And she signed me up for a styling session.

With my body issues that I’ve written about before in terms of being mental about my weight, clothes shopping has frequently been incredibly upsetting. I go for things that I like the look of but are completely the wrong shape for me. Or everything on trend is not for my shape. Or I stare critically at my self in badly lit, unflattering mirrors. And I get very upset. Think I’m fat and leave. I associate shopping with being upset and never finding anything. Less so since my diagnosis and being thinner. But still. I don’t think yay! Shopping! Like so many.

Indulging in some self-care

That was different today. A really lovely stylist who gives her time to this cancer charity had picked out stuff for me that really suited me. She got me. My quirks. My style. And most importantly my shape. And it was amazing. I have never really felt that happy in a clothing shop before. She also reassured me the whole time that I’m not fat. And she checked in with my energy levels and that I was ok. She was caring and told me that it’s ok to treat myself. Especially after all I’ve been through. So I did.

I am now a bit “arghhhhh” about how much I spent. But I never do this for me. I’m 34 on Sunday, so it can be an early birthday present. I’ve also bought new clothes, including today, 3 times in the last 4 years. So it’s ok. I just need to relax. It will be ok. I deserve this.

Living with cancer has had a lot of rough times associated with it over the last, nearly 12 years. But then I get given opportunities and experiences like this. And it makes it all so much easier.

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  • Ann Harper moderator
    3 months ago

    Sometimes you just have to enjoy the moment. I’m happy for you that you got to treat yourself and enjoy a little time for you!

    3 months ago

    Good for you! I hope that becomes a habit and that others indulge you from time to time.

  • Yolanda Brunson-Sarrabo moderator
    3 months ago

    Katie, doing things for yourself is a move into living your best life. Just because we have what we have doesn’t mean we can’t do us, and whatever that means that brings us joy, peace of mind, and that doesn’t harm us, well, that’s a good thing. Best!

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