Making Fun Out of a Bad Experience
Cancer and fun. Whoever thought those words would go together? I never did, but then we decided to have a hair cutting party for my daughter. Let the fun begin!
Not long after my daughter, Crystal, got cancer she started losing her hair. She knew this side effect was a possibility, but still when you are 25, the last thing in the world you want is to lose your hair. Crystal had long brown hair and it was beautiful. She was devastated when she realized her hair was falling out. Although Crystal knew this was extremely likely to happen, when she saw clumps of hair on her pillow and in the shower, it still came as a shock.
A hairstylist - I am not!
What she decided to do to combat this was to take matters into her own hands and cut off her hair on her own terms. What I didn't know was when she said, "Mom, I'm going to cut my hair", she really meant, "Mom you are going to cut my hair"!
The day Crystal decided to cut her hair, we decided to have a party. We invited her 2 sisters Amy and Melyssa, and her niece Mia. My husband was ready and had the grill going. I had scissors in hand and was prepared for the job ahead. I thought it would be fun to give Crystal a whole bunch of different hairstyles, so we started with just cutting it a little shorter. Then we cut off some of the sides giving her a kind of old fashioned shag. After that, I cut one side even more giving her a funky doo! Next came a mohawk. Then came the moment it all had to go. It was sad, she was bald, but she looked beautiful!
Taking control and gaining power
Trying to make a bad situation fun is one way to deal with what you're experiencing. Truthfully, it only takes the edge off. In reality, the only good thing that came from our haircutting party was that Crystal was able to take control of her life rather than having cancer take control of her one more time. Having her own hair cut when she was ready for it gave her a sense of power. Luckily, she had her family there to support her which really made her feel good. I think, despite the fact of shaving her hair, she enjoyed the day. She documented it, made a Facebook post to update her viewers about it, and the day ended.
Nothing in life is going to be perfect, so we have to learn to go with the flow. As a caregiver and mother, it was difficult to cut Crystal's hair, but I was very proud of how she handled the situation. Her hair is growing back - a little curlier than before, but she looks cute! Short hair is something she wouldn't have considered before, but now she may keep it that way. So I guess the moral of the story is - when life hands you lemons, make lemonade!
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